Ok, so before you get your knickers in a twist by the baffling tagline, please stay with me because the word UNATTRACTIVE has nothing to do with looks or appearances.
Great! Thank you.
Everyone wants to be a likeable person. Even the most introvert of people who like to quietly watch the crowd from a dark corner and be amused or jealous want to be known as “not a bad person”. But then sometimes, even without knowing, we tend to do things that make us unattractive as a person so much so that people won’t even want to be near us. So lets look at such unattractive characteristics:
You are Rude – Plain & simple. Now you might be working hard to save the world which is giving you unwanted anxiety and keeping you at edge or you might be frustrated with your life (Yea life is sad…
Hey, I want talk to you teeny-weeny. Not to worry I will not advice, nor I ask you to procure more marks. It’s just a dialogue and talk back if it helped!
I know teen girls are easy to talk to; but boys never give a heed. Does it hurt us the elders, when in company of attitude or misdemeanour of a person age of their experience? Yes, of course it does, for parents it hurts. But I love to talk to you all coz you are sweet and your actions are age justified. Even you are not able to figure out what’s going on your ever full, crumpled brains. Since you hate to talk to your seemingly rigid Parents, this talk could be a let out. Trust me I won’t talk about careers and other serious stuff with my own kids I shall ask my well-wishers to do that.
Usually Teenagers want to get noticed, yet know not what to do. But by common sense I can say people talk about achievers or toppers in studies. Even being good at any sport or a guy coming up in local newspaper are always talked about. In friends circle, humorous guy is an instant hit. Or else just throw away that Idea of getting noticed; be yourself. Even superstars are forgotten after their films dwindle, right. So, why bother,” Haste Haste kat jaaye raste”( Just move on in your life with a smile). Yet as far as my knowledge goes peers like a strong person a role model sort of a guy rather than those ape film stars or always show off their Parents money. Being yourself and developing a skill of your own can be the best bet, whatsoever.
Getting inspired from TV shows and Movies is favourable, yet their main motive is not educating people but to draw audience should be borne in mind. When they dramatize normal happenings it’s attractive but life is harsh and not that surreal or idealistic, is it not? Life will not act in a pre-determined way it’s very unpredictable right. Doing something out of the way just to get noticed or to impress someone, can have serious damage on one’s future; right?
Before doing anything which can endanger your life you must ask yourself, is it worth the risk? Is it really a life and death question for me? After five years does this really matter as much as of now? Is this friend (accomplice) who is instigating me will stay with me and go through hell if things won’t work out as planned? Why should one get into such an odd thing in the very first place? Most of the time curious onlookers or just once offenders pay a heavy price is it not? So, any unethical, secretive anti-social, work for the sake of quick money or getting noticed or even for a (?) loved one should be totally ruled out.
Nothing is life and death question but LIFE CARVING is.
I read this somewhere,’ Friends support good habits Accomplices support bad habits’. Sometimes in pursuit of or to project oneself, ‘COOL’ teenagers may get into certain groups. Yet few friends are like Dhuryodhan; who gave lots of goodies to Karna but was it really good for him? If you work for a crook how much ever friendly he is; it is regressive, agree?
Not listening to elders and doing things pleases you is okay fine it’s forgivable, can you forgive yourself after say ten years when you are stranded in your life aimlessly? Not studying when you should have may make you regret whole of your life, so balance between your own dreams and expectations of the society.
Friends do have a very crucial and important part in everyone’s life. They alone are not everything in life and cannot guide always since they are equally naïve, is it not? Something good for your close friend may not be as good to you since both are different individuals, is it not? In fact teens should engage in talks with friendly elders apart from parents to have a non-judgemental point of view on life defining aspects.
In studies most Teenagers want quick money or choose courses which may not be their dream defined ones. Just because one of the friends recommended it or en masse all friends are in that group they also tend to go by the flock. Again few people think getting into prestigious institutions by hook or crook will ensure good future. If you dig it a bit you can see, only royal road to better future is college which suits one’s needs, smart (hard) work, improving skills with all possible avenues and focus.
Now it’s time to shape one’s future, instead of following beaten path and hoping for miracles to happen ,take things into your stride, listen to well-wisher’s advice who happens to be in the profession you aspire to be in and then decide what’s best for you.
A Boy of age 20years was clinically depressed and came to me for an informal talk upon persuasion of his worried father. He has entered engineering due to peer pressure and now unable to decide whether to continue studies or to pursue his dreams. I suggested him to go ahead with his plans; but in future only a degree- four letters could have fetched a much more lucrative job he may feel, though he has a superlative skills in his job, but by then it will be too late to get a degree is it not? Recently, I came to know from his father that he is going to college besides shaping up his dreams.
I told one of my benefactor to not to take up CA if she does not have an absolute passion towards it. She tried to clear the CPT twice but in vain which reduced her self-confidence. Not clearing entrance exam do necessarily mean that she is not good enough? In reality you must be smart enough to figure out what you need and what you are good at right?
Teens who seek Medical help have very high, performance oriented stress and are not able to cope with them. This is because of their Parents and Peer pressure as well. It is not the stress, that good one you experience before a stage show or participating in a sport. It just squeezes life sap from them. It makes them seem invalid. Is it sounds like your own story?
So, I guess you need guidance and removal of obstacles in your path of choice but not advice or spoon feeding. Yet its very essential that you talk to elders without negative emotions buddy,life is very precious and no easy ways to achieve in life.
If utterly confused elders duty is to clear the confusion and help you in need of hour. But it’s quite essential for us Parents to read all available Paths and resources for them and again make them recognize that there is only one royal road for accomplishment; hard work and Diligence.
Be strong mentally to meet life’s challenges buddy rather than counting each mark you were supposed to score; work hard with no excuses till exams are over then relax, accept the results and move on. See what best could be done, that’s it.
Courses are not end to achieve but a beginning to an end and that everyone knows. Let you not suffer physically and mentally due to the constant stress. Instead you should be prepared to welcome your bright future with a smile and tools to get where you want to be.
When it comes to treatments now sought for a condition unlike in olden days People are more open minded and seek all available help to treat it. This is very true in case of ASD considering not much interventions or improvement strategies are available naturally Onus falls on Alternative therapies.
But when we examine such procedures even not so well researched or documented ways also find a spot in those therapy courses.
Nonetheless when it comes to Homoeopathic Intervention unless the Parents follow Homoeopathy for a long period of time most of them treat it symptomatically, which is not very much encouraging as it may not provide long term benefits for Health.
Symptom based Homoeopathy drugs are obtained:
Over the counter drugs.
Online search engines delivered drugs
Another person passing on his prescription which has same diagnostic name.
Friends with homoeopathy know how or
Prescribed by a Homoeopath residing in another place; who is unable to take complete case.
Through such prescriptions one can reduce symptoms immediately for which treatment is taken. For example sleepless is treated sleep will improve, if restlessness is addressed that will be reduced; likewise. Symptoms may come back after few months; then if the same medicine is repeated it may not be as effective as for the first time.
Classical Homoeopathy is the one which can bring about total cure on all levels that is Physical, Mental and spiritual;
Immunity is increased and it helps to fight diseases from within. For example if treated for frequent Cold and cough apart from improvement in catching cold person will not have frequent sinus Headaches also allergy to certain foods may be rectified along with it.
Just like in case of symptomatic treatment immediate relief is noticed but it takes time to achieve all desired results.
Moreover cold cough fever are short term acute troubles will go away even if not treated, whereas ASD, Thyroid, PCOD, Asthma, Joint pains are long termchronic diseases and will not improve over time but in turn get worse.
People do not realize this and those who go to same Allopathic doctor to treat Typhoid fever for a month or even bear with relapses cannot wait for a Homoeopathic course to complete. They expect miracles in short time.
Advantages of classical method are treatments are available for following unusual causes:
ü Vaccination related damages.
ü High fever related convulsions which may have led to ASD symptoms with regression in normal milestones.
ü Heavy metal poisoning back log can be cleared like lead, Aluminium or due to
ü Medicinal overdoses of allopathic antibiotics Emotional issues of Mothers during Pregnancy of the affected child.
ü Hormonal treatments undergone if any for conceiving by the Mother of te affected Child.
ü Genetic orientations and defects are rectified.
ü Head injury effects are treated and if possible cured, in case that is the starting point of the regress.
These are achieved by gradual flush outs of the system but reaction of the person determines outcome.
Also Bio-medical treatments of dietary changes and restrictions like stoppage of proprietary foods; foods with additives as well as restricting sugary, dairy or gluten foods are positive input for the Homoeopathic treatment but Chelation ; other chemical or medication (like Antibiotics) oriented treatments will hinder or even nullify Homoeopathic therapy. So, Homoeopath needs to know all therapies under gone and Parents are expected to stop few medications as per Homoeopaths advice.
However medications for Seizures (epilepsy) or other Psychiatric drugs must be reduced or stopped by concerned Psychiatrist alone and none other.
Homoeopathic treatment in Classical way is by far beneficial than many non-invasive therapies however Symptomatic treatment with Homoeopathy is comparatively safe to random treatments and beneficial for short terms.
According to one’s interest, efforts and intention to achieve progress in their child’s health results will be dependent upon.
Though practically Parents especially Mother’s fight a fierce battle against day today troubles, concerns about other family members; prioritizing this child over whole world it is a uphill task to sustain.
So it has to be dealt with calm mind and put in all possible resources like involving all good intentioned friends and relatives in taking care of the child”s welfare and with patience. Over zeal or Urgency is damaging just as much as laziness and complacence.
Provided Homoeopathy is by far safest, most helpful as well as result oriented and fulfilling journey (as narrated by Parents of children who are under Homoeopathic care) so, give a try after learning about it a bit.
SIMPLE ELECTROCHEMICAL EXPLANATION OF HOMEOPATHIC DRUGS
The solute in a homeopathic drug is not molecular because its been ionized, and there are tests that prove it.
All of the extreme controversy over whether or not the homeopathic remedy is placebo or verum, whether or not these materials are medically effective, and all of these phony money offers to “prove homeopathy”, conveniently avoid this simple, demonstrable fact, a fact that separates homeopathy from fiction: the solute in highly diluted solutions used as homeopathic drugs is ionized and can be physically detected by conventional chemical analysis.
Students and professors of electrochemistry should be well aware of this elementary principle of molecular dissociation, that as the solute 0resumably decreases and thins out, its molar conductivity increases to an asymptote and evidence of the solute persists in the solvent despite an apparent infinite number of dilutions.
A report published in The Hindu may seem shocking that Prescription drug overdose is largest killer in US, ahead of Motor vehicle accidents. Drug overdose may not be your Physicians mistake alone. It could be overzealous patients who fail to get the cues their body provides that something is wrong. Though as a Homoeopath we are not trained to prescribe allopathic drugs we are trained to see discrepancies’ and whether symptoms are caused due to natural diseases or drugs side effects or over doses.
When you check websites of Authority like CDC of US variety of drug overdoses noted top among them being pain-killers. Even we have a tendency to pop painkillers for Headaches and Knee pains is it not? Few of my patients say they carry on daily routine just because of Pain killers. It saddens me to hear this even up to 3 tablets per day though their Physicians does not approve it, there seems to be no other option. In these cases Headache has to be treated thoroughly like clearing the cause and nature of headache. It could be Sinus; Sun headaches, migraine, menopausal or tension headaches. In most of cases within two sittings headache becomes bearable and pain killers could be stopped, yet treatment may have to be continued to complete the course.
Most over prescribed drugs seen in daily practice are of Hypertension, sleeplessness and for Diabetes. Previously General physicians guided their patients to do diet changes and to exercise in order to control Type II diabetes ; HTN was confirmed only after repeated checks showing high pressure. Now experts tend to put on drugs for the results which tend to be slight above normalcy; even for digitally checked cases. Few of my patients were prudent enough to notice this and they stoped the medicines when they felt dizzy, sinking like feeling or excessive sweating. But I suggest you consult your Physician and discuss this.
Other abused drugs are Vitamins and Doctors are also partially responsible for this one. They use Vitamins as Placebos. Patients carry it forward and make a habit of taking Vitamin pills indiscriminately. One of my client said he takes vitamin tablets for ten years daily by now, it was shocking for me. He had joint pains no other trouble, I asked him to stop it for at least three months to flush out excesses from his system which he was reluctant to do. Convincing Patients about the unnecessary burden on our system due to drugs is the toughest part I guess since they think Vitamins and Iron alongside Calcium are ‘Good’ and need not to be stopped. They do not realize after all they are also proprietary drugs and not food.
Recently I had a case of melena, blackish watery stools or motions, along with vomiting and loss of appetite. It’s a serious issue meaning internal gut bleeding. When routines in my list did not yield results I reviewed her, asked what she recently did? She had been to her Physician and her Hypertension tablets were changed. I asked her to go back to her physician and report about this drug overdose, meanwhile I gave medicines to reduce impact of all drugs like Aloes Sorcotina 200 and Nux vomica 200. She felt better (imagine she was almost bed ridden by now), her appetite improved and when she reported to her Physician he changed her dosage admitting it was excesses of dosage.
Another lady of 45 took clopidegrol or clopilet a blood thinner to prevent- clots inside blood vessels and to strokes\heart attacks. She took the dosage double for more than three months ended up in melena, when she consulted her doctor he rectified it, but the effects are not that easy to go away. Just imagine she could have any bleeding disorder or life threatening episodes.
Chennai as it’s called now, had been called as Chenna(i) patnam, Madrasu patnam. It has always been unique in its Cultural as well as geographical typology. But this time something very different happened, it shattered its own records of more than a century; in down pouring rains, of course. Yes, Chennai gradually upgraded its rainfall from better than previous years to ten year’s best and stopping the third innings after its own century records broken.
Being here for fifteen years now, I have been part of praying for sufficient rains every year; wait with anguish will this year be better! so that summer and extended summer will be little trouble free. This was cumulative effect of all the years, provably. But what it left behind was insurmountable. Lives were shattered, households have to rebuilt from the scratch, luxury cars which never received any respect from battered roads and chaotic traffic suffered much more shame in hands of rain god. They kept floating everywhere and owners had difficulty in catching their own cars.
Did it wash out everything? No, not everything, as in every case of disaster trails, humanity prevailed and reality emerged. It may leave behind a lesson or two for our future. So as a Spirit to help others gained priority, lifesaving again became foremost one. Everything reduced to basic needs.
The youth who instantly jumped into rescue operations few losing their precious lives in saving other as much precious ones, emerged as heroes.Kudos to youngsters whose names are not heard or faces not seen who are penultimate of selflessness and bravery. They surpassed their movie Idols , of whom with few exceptions mostly remained in cosy rooms and were shying away from living up to their reel life personas.
When nothing was misplaced at and around our areas we started feeling guilty as we heard on Social media about ravages of Rain. In fact as we came to know most of old city was unhurt in this process and it’s not that Mylapore alone was saved. So, people plunged into helping others who weren’t as lucky as themselves. It’s a way to be part of the big process and feeling blessed by” Kereya neeranu kerege chelli”, (giving back the water given by the lake to it) giving back to the eternal cosmos.
The LOVE and AFFECTION poured on to us by our friends and relatives just blew us all. Whether it’s known people or unknown they just showed solidarity and it boosted our morale amazingly. Actually our friends in other cities knew more about the happenings here than most of us, which again is heart-warming. It kept us afloat.
It was a flooding of volunteers as well and we could help in some ways like pack food packets for distribution. Since am a Homoeopath, medicines were dispensed to prevent Leptospirosis and dengue and being part of camps while delivering what was in our hands was really fulfilling. It gave us an opportunity to talk directly to victims and in the process put liniment on their wounds. When a young lean woman says she is not lactating properly to feed her 52 days old baby, I wonder, is she in need of medicines or simply is she hungry? I curse myself for not able to help her, to get food for herself.
But looking at them we can understand the amazing grit and mental strength; while helping each other as and when required, they take all difficulties into their stride; find solutions and move on. As one can guess, there resides the wisdom and spirit of our country.
The best part being forwarding messages to get help for people in trouble and connecting victims to their helping hands as our network and phone were functioning. When we hear that pregnant woman got help and delivered safely our joy knew no bounds. There were so many heart touching stories which made us cry, each passing day that we lost count of it. For the first time we took to social media without guilt of wasting time, but to get help for others or at least we believed so!
Practically Chennai is back in full zoom by now, but these memories will linger for many years to come. We can say to our grandchildren about the happenings and feel proud that ‘during Chennai floods, volunteers out- numbered victims at times’. It’s a way to say thanks to all of our Friends who stood by us, prayed for us and helped Chennai to be back as before.
Acne is a inflammatory condition of skin due to blockage of oil secreting glands upon the skin. It can be super added with infection which leads to pus formation and in the end to scar formation.
Although Teens are more prone to Pimples, it can be seen in any age group undergoing turmoil in their Hormones. As everyone is aware it can be due to Pollution, dandruff,(vide:Hair care and homoeopathy.) lack o, eating too much of Junk food so on and so forth. Yet few people without much contribution from their side may have Acne. Severe at times and not clearing off with all the creams or medicines they receive.
Acne is not just skin issue and applying any amount of costly creams is of little use. Sometimes this strong chemical based creams or still worse steroidal preparations may suppress Acne and lead to menstrual irregularities, weight gain, dullness or memory issues. So beware, if your treatment gets costlier or vigorous more likely that you are landing in overall health problem.
Mr.M, aged 21, medical student, had severe pimples, spreading down to his back since 3-4 years not yielding to any sort of treatment.Also, black marks remained after it subsided. He is a very shy type of person and did not make constant eye contact. After thorough case taking it I came to know that he had chicken pox recently and Acne got triggered after this. It’s a common knowledge that chicken pox in teens is a bit of worrisome and it usually leave behind scars or some sort of skin issues. After treatment for the same his skin became normal and respiratory problem got solved. Actually his confidence levels improved and he was able to conduct according his profession.
It’s true that due to Acne, young Adults become low self-esteemed; it’s a constant burden on their mind that they are Ugly. It is fuelled by Ad makers who promise quick fix solutions. Little known Psycho dynamics is Teens may feel very shy and ill-fit among their friends which can actually cause Pimples. It is a Stress->Acne->stress; vicious cycle.
To break the cycle conscious efforts should be taken to build upon their strengths if no other health issues are present. That way Homoeopathy can help in rectifying health problems, help them to prevent recurrent pimples and to improve self-confidence as well.
Apart from clean hands and washing face to remove accumulated dust or soon after getting up in morning with Plain water yes I repeat plain water or mild soaps can help, not touching or handling the pimple is very Important. Surprisingly applying coconut or Til oil to face with gentle massaging and removing oil with towel soaked in hot water gently is a very effective way to get rid of excess oil and hydrating the skin.
Calendula Q one to two drops in one litre of water and rinse the face before going to bed and pat dry it helps o clear off the scars and black marks. The same can be tried with Berberis aquafolium Q, Echinacea Q also. Calcarea sulph 6x, Kali Sulph 6x or Kali brom 6x daily one pill for one week can reduce pimples. Yet visit to a Homoeopath first is more appropriate.