It was a dull afternoon I was waiting in a bus stop and not a single bus came through .So boring uh.. I just casually raised my head, gazed at the sky and was awestruck. Ah! Behold! The sight was breath taking; tree top with pink flowers and a small ray of sun peeping through that green leaves basking them in golden tinge. Now where is the boredom? It was so beautiful and I forgot about Bus while relishing it.
Is doing nothing leads to boredom or bore feel leads to idleness? But People feel bored when they are stuck in a work they have no escape from. But in reality uninteresting thing depends on people’s threshold of attention span. Few enjoy classical music or dance and Choirs as well but many are bored, especially Children. Because priority of a child is to play and it cannot be held upon in a place passively. But adult’s attention span is also very less nowadays because they think of superlatives always. During a Music concert Instrumental piece seemed elaborate and boring! But when I thought of it, can we relish if each moment is finest? Actually your mind will sag with overwhelm feel. Life is right proportion of all elements not just of best moments is it not?
Honestly I have never felt bored when am alone in fact I enjoy that time. It could be late night and not getting to sleep again my creativity will be at its best. Just like bathroom singers I write poems or stories for my satisfaction and never checked whether it is worth publishing. As Vivekananda said ‘if you are not conversing to yourself then you are missing company of a great person’, it is rather detrimental to one’s self development I think. Being in the moment without thinking about yesterday’s spat or next day’s meeting is very essential for a person not getting hurried and feel bored is it not? Even if we are not having what we feel we want at that time still we can do so many things with which we really have at that moment. Then creativity comes in and improvising one’s own creations will lead to perfection.
Is your little one says bore or feels bored always? Then we alone are to be blamed since boredom is non-existent, it is only lack of creativity. Gadgets TV, Mobile phones or Computers are first to be blamed or are they? Who is sending their children to watch TV or play on gadgets? Who is taking complete responsibility not even losing a moment, to keep children engaged for parent’s peace of mind or for convenience? Have we allowed them to create stories and role play without any costly toys at disposal as we did in our Childhood? Introducing children to traditional games and encouraging them to mingle with children without bringing in our status or Ego; just letting them to be kids is very essential, is it not? Actually that word,”Bored” must be deleted from each one’s repertoire for good, I think.
But doing nothing at times is very refreshing as we are not bonded labourers; being kind at times to ourselves (not meant for teens) and let go things will be fun rather than running to an overcrowded Mall in search of entertainment or adding junk food into one’s tummy without hunger . Taking time out to be with family is the new mantra but what is the point if everyone is holding a gadget and playing. Anything can be just that without fanfare or speciality attached to it. So, have a fulfilling week ahead.
Hairs are called crowning glory by cliché and they are; since it really matters a lot in ones persona besides its significance as Health indicator. Since Adolescents are obsessed with the fact that looks are most important and it assumes running behind a mirage of sorts, for them.
Ask your grandma does her hair turned grey in her thirties? Whether she started using shampoos to clean her hairs as young as 6 months of age? I think the answer will be in negative for both questions. She mostly used homemade Shikakai whole of her life. Then is it that tough to use Shikakai \soapnut powder in this era of so many Herbal\Organic shops? That’s what it sounds very simple yet you may have to spend one hour to get that powder done once in 6 months or so and need 10 minutes extra to wash your hairs with that powder\paste.
Time again it has been proved clinically that shampoos are no good of any brand or how much ever costly. Even baby shampoos are no different and herbals are little milder can be used occasionally, but Anti-Dandruff shampoos are worst enemy of your hairs. You need only few washes to obtain grey strands. And surely greying of hair as early as 16 years is not genetic nowadays but chemically acquired.
Plain unrefined coconut oil is best for your hairs but warming with curry leaves, mixing Amlaki and Henna powder or along with Shikakai is also very good, indeed you can make these home remedies freshly each time you need a hair wash, else can apply overnight and wash hairs in the morning. If you could spend some time on FB or WhatSapp; surely you can make some time for this most important aspect of ones looks, agree? Please do not buy any brand hair oils they surely are waste of money. When Hair problems are hormonally influenced what can any external thing do to modify that? Treatment must be internal as well is it not? Homoeopathy helps in all aspects of Hair problems be it easily tangled as in remedy Borax or frizzy hairs of Graphites. Usually Nat Mur 6X or Kali Mur 6X can help to reduce hair fall due to external factors such as pollution, besides no health issues noticed. Few People are benefitted by Arnica Hair oils but it may not be a rule. This is also true for Jaborandi Q and Menthapiperatum Q other medicines which helps to get abundant hair growth. If they are not suited for you, side effects will be Headaches or mild giddiness or some new symptom you had never noticed before. But discontinuing the oil is enough to get rid of additional symptoms, they are not lasting ones.
But the truth is it needs simple yet not so convenient solutions to keep hairs in whatever way you want. As you know general health improving, intake of fresh fruits and veggies etc.is essential for good hairs by now since you may have gone through hundreds of beauty magazines. Still you may not be aware that hair fall is a serious issue and an indicator of some deep Imbalance usually hormonal, may be Anaemia or even Tubercular tendencies. If left untreated those not so perceptible troubles may turn into severe illnesses. Taking Homoeopathic treatment is very essential to prevent bigger issues like 1. In nut shell to have bouncy beautiful hairs switch back to natural ways of treating your hair instead of costly or fancy ones.
2. Take medicines or supplements as suggested for a brief period if it works well and good.
3. Still hair fall should never be ignored get treatment from a Qualified Homoeopath; only individualised treatment and prevent futuristic health Setbacks.
Even though this is not an exhaustive list, still it will serve purpose of regaining the old charm in your face I hope. Take care have a great week ahead
I heard an interesting terminology’ child centric’ meaning the child’s well being at the center-fold and to make your child get prepared to face this world. Actually children thrive in a guided framework pattern instead of unpredictable patterns. They usually abide by rules and mostly stick to it and expect you not to change rules at a drop of hat, at your convenience.
In his beautiful comprehensive article, Dr.Steve Korner., Psychologist says listening is virtually impossible unless parents are able to constructively regulate their own emotions. Parents and children reciprocally exchange or catch emotions like cold or contagion (i.e. frustration, anger, sadness). How Parents and Children can function as a Successful Team, Psychology information online.
For example Father is down with some illness Child’s scores in Exam may dip even though every possible help has been provided. If Mother is always on the verge of some Psychological turmoil and child may come up with destructive tendencies. So, not scolding or penalising children does not mean full care provided. Their emotional needs has to be taken care of as well as they have to be involved as an individual in all activities of one’s household. Proper attention matters, more than toys or gifts.
Not only toys are child driven things in our household, we cram our houses with things just demanded by our child or we saw in an attractive ad in a Shopping Mall. Wafers, noodles, pastas, soya products, pastries, cupcakes ……the list goes on for the sake of show off that our household is modern (like the one in TV Ad) refrigerators; cupboards will be filled with all available goodies (?).
One of tiny tot’s Mother was complaining of fussy eating. I asked what he takes in the morning. She elaborated he takes a big glass of milk at 7.15 am and skips his breakfast at 8- 8.15 am. I asked her to prioritize he cannot have both in one hour gap if he drinks milk without fuss then shift it to 10.30 am break snacks, but moderate breakfast is essential and milk alone cannot hold on till 12 noon lunch hour. You cannot just push through all things just because they are healthy into your child’s mouth is it not? They ask for so many things but actually take which is really essential for them only very few children gobble every eatable is it not?
Simple hints to trap your clever child:
1. Keep decisions what and when to buy in your own hands be firm and prioritize, once I bought some health drink since my second daughter asked daily for a month and she had half spoon on the very first day and it went to moths and fungi.
2. Fix adorable yet unhealthy foods for specific time, Noodles or pasta every month once in my household, Pizza done at home from scratch once a month or so, chips chocolates for celebrations or in birthday parties only, hotel food while travelling or occasionally, rest homemade foods and occasional indulgences. They quickly learn and adapt to this and will be looking forward to these occasions. No restriction for Ice-creams and biscuits they are fill-ups or as and when needed.
3. Chats can be prepared at home with some effort, again monthly once or so. Even Spicy Sweet corn or soups can be prepared easily at home.
4. Healthy breakfast is not bread and butter or cornflakes 7 days a week. Bread should not be included in diet, more than twice in a week, instead make habit of traditional breakfasts initially with force; perks or gifts then they will adapt to it, bread or corn flakes should be for emergency purposes only not regulars.
5. Wafers seem to be healthy but are too sweetened and should be kept as a bribe or reward, Cookies is better.
6. Adding variety and new food should start at 10- 12 months of age initially just to taste then teaspoonfuls they gag do all dramas feel hot/spicy but efforts must continue till they come to your terms. They say at least ten tastings are needed for a baby to accept new taste, so keep trying; this is true for older children as well.
To summarize Children are not individuals’ but part of family in all respects; functioning as a unit. They must be respected provided specific role as well as consulted in decisions should be aware of troubles parents are going through yet kept away from difficulties. They need cozy home with caring, attentive parents and material things will come in the last of the list. Take care have a happy weekend.
Bringing up a child is in this era is very challenging or at least we think so. As if parents were never perplexed. But since globalization of feelings; Indian Parents are confused like never before, I guess. They are Ad driven and dreamy in approach and do things for the sake others, rather than prioritize according to their household needs or in the best interests of their children. For example Ads show that only so called Health drinks can make your child Taller Stronger and sharper and what er….? Honestly can we believe in those business driven tactics? If we know Milk is very good for health is it just after research confirmed Calcium richness or other benefits or there was credibility before this? Is it not necessary to know what goes into those drinks? They will surely alter to suit for longer shelf life, besides the Aluminum foils are used to wrap those food which causes poisoning which leads to constipation and other problems. Both of my Children grew without Health drinks and they are as normal as anyone of their age. If someone suggests to give a health drink cause your child is poorly nourished think about all these:
1. Usually children especially young ones feel full with those wheat based foods and will fuss over regular meals.
2. Few months or years after regular usage they will put on weight, it is common sense because malt actually useful for gaining weight, mostly extra pounds are unwelcome and unhealthy as well. Health is not directly proportionate to weight or height.
Instead cannot we prepare health drinks mix with ;Wheat, Jowar, Millets, Groundnuts, Cardamom, Cashews, separately dry roasted every fortnight or so and prepare the drink which tastes like kheer (if averse to sweet buttermilk can be added to boiled and cooled drink) and have it daily?
Someone jokingly said “we humans consume processed foods which even bacteria and fungus does not want to take!”, elaboration not necessary I guess, gluten is the new enemy for new age Nutritionists, but natural Atta; homemade chapattis, does they look that villainy?
If your child is very active, playful as well as friendly, good at studies and is Height or weight such an issue? You search any medical literature; best nutrition is obtained from natural food alone and supplements as well as added nutrients are only for convalescents (recovering from sickness).
If Height or weight is actually a concern then, better you consult a Homoeopath and obtain correct guidance. Homoeopathic Medicines have helped to improve general Health and children have grown taller over years with them. Moreover, Parents who provide Homoeopathic Care to their Children, vouch by the fact that the child is very Smart and active.
Alfalfa Tonic available in Homoeopathic shops has time again proved to increase Appetite, helps in healthy weight gain if necessary, removes tiredness, gives sound sleep moreover has no side effects. It is rejuvenatory when you actually feel tired or overworked and it need not be taken regularly. Calc Phos 6x is also recommended for children whose bones are weak or calcium deficient and who have teething problems or less appetite.
Have a Happy week ahead and do read second part of this write up next week.